When my husband and I found each other, just over 5 years ago we both said it felt like coming home.
I myself had been looking for love for as long as I could remember - but in all the wrong places. I had been looking for someone to complete me (like all the best love songs). It took many failed relationships and a divorce before I had my awakening. Before I realised the fundamental truth that you have to be whole and fully love yourself first before you can be in a relationship. If you become only part of a couple you will forever be looking for the missing piece.
Being happy is my responsibility, it's no one else's job. Knowing this, I set myself free and every one else. I never need be afraid of change, of a relationship ending because ultimately I make me happy. When I really got this it was such a relief.
I am sure there are those who know this from the start, people who have healthy self esteem and know that their happiness is at least equally important as any one else's but for whatever reason I didn't and it took me until just a few years ago to know this as my truth. It came gradually over years of personal growth work but the year or so before I met my husband the learning was profound.
I am still in awe of all the magic that surrounded our finding each other (but that's another story). For now we have written a book to guide the reader through the steps we took; firstly to become whole and then to be ready to receive each other. It is written from both perspectives (male and female) as we believe that (generally) as sexes we do approach things slightly differently.